Hi Friend! I bet you’re wondering…
What is The Pretend Adult?
Have you ever felt like you’re pretending your way through life? That you’re not really an adult – OH you do adult things (go to work, pay bills, buy groceries) but you’re just stumbling through life, always questioning and doubting.
No?! Just me!
Well, if you feel a little lost or out of control – Welcome to The Pretend Adult!
It’s a comfortable place where you can learn about emotional intelligence and self-awareness, gain practical tools, feel more in-control, find support, and inspiration!
I want to give a candid look at living with and managing mental illness, surviving loss, grief, anxiety, depression and just everyday shit life throws at you.
This blog is about developing strategies to manage your mental health better. It is about continuing on (not moving on), taking it day by day and facing reality (WOW – that’s fucking cheesy!) It’s doing all of these things with swearing and sarcasm (exactly what life gives us!) 😊
So, Who Am I?
My name is Lacey, I am 35 and live with my cat, Fawkes, in Saskatchewan, Canada. My dad died instantly and unexpectedly in an ATV accident in 2010 and my mom was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s only a few years later. I struggle with major depression and general anxiety disorder.
I am also a teacher, hold 2 university degrees, and a diploma in Montessori education.
I am generous and kind.
I am strong and firm.
I am honest and compassionate.
I am extremely organized (OCD tendencies much!?).
I am an awesome aunty.
I love to cook, bake, make crafts, read and write.
I love to plan and host parties – I love theme parties!
I love coffee and chocolate and ice cream!
I love to play board games, video games and watch movies.
I am an introvert (that surprises most people).
I love love love Harry Potter!
So, Why A Blog?
Being a teacher showed me there is a real lack of emotional education in our children… and then into adulthood. I have suffered from depression and anxiety my whole life and I was never really taught how to handle my emotions or even what my emotions were telling me. I would find myself getting dragged into this emotional loop and some days it would be crippling, some days it would be euphoric (depending on the emotion).
When I eventually hit burnout (my depression and anxiety had worn me down) I sought help. That’s when I started CBT therapy (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). I was finally taught what these thoughts and feelings were telling my brain and body and all I could think of was “Man life would have been so much easier if I had some of these tools a long time ago.”
So that’s why I started The Pretend Adult – I want to help you too. I want to give you insight into what your thoughts and emotions are telling you and I want to give you practical tools to manage them.
So please, join me on this journey and let’s survive together!
And remember – FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT!
Want to know more about me? Check out this post.
Do you feel like you are a pretend adult?